they are taught no one will believe them
why don’t survivors tell?
The survivors may be frightened that if they get close to someone outside of the abusers, then they might leave them when they find out what the survivor has had to do in the past.Often the people a survivor can go to for help also have people involved who are part of the abuse group.
The abusers are told that the survivor has gone for help and they will be punished severely for trying to get help.The sufferers will be made to feel afraid through torture of Doctors, Policemen, others in uniform.
Because of this they are too frightened to go to these people for help.They are made to believe throughout their lives that others outside the group will not believe them.
If they do then they will be locked away in jail or in a mental inpatient unit for doing such bad things with the abusers.
The abusers will use guilt and fear as their tools for keeping people from leaving them and opening up to others.
Ritual Abuse survivors are taught from an early age that no one will believe them. The fact that this tends to be true re-enforces this
Survivors are taught not to talk. They are taught that it would be a betrayal. They are taught that talking is a weakness
Ritual Abuse survivors find talking difficult, as do most survivors. If you add to that the extent of the trauma and how talking about it can cause flashbacks, it sometimes becomes impossible to talk
Survivors often believe that if they talk, they will die or someone will.
As adults, survivors can appreciate that what they might try to say will be unbelievable. Things may have happened that they know on a rational level just can’t be possible. They may also appreciate that there must have been trickery involved, but not know what it was.
The literal language that many survivors use while trying to talk can make it difficult for others to understand what they are trying to say
People sometimes don’t ask or persist in asking in the right way. Many survivors need to be asked in a very direct manner.
Many survivors believe that it is pointless to try and talk about abuse.
Loyalty to the family and the group can run very deep.
RA survivors often feel that what happened to them was right. They often feel that they quite literally belong to the group and as such the group had a right to do anything at all to them. In this case, talking about it would not be a consideration for a survivor.
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